There is one line you should NEVER cross with me!

*Where do I start with this one?*

It’s been bugging me for quite some time now. I’m just going to drop some random thoughts and take it from there:

  1. You have a girlfriend/fiance’/wife yet you want to ‘get involved’ with me? … What kind of man are you and more importantly,  what kind of person does that make me?
  2. If you message/call me and I don’t respond, maybe I’m busy …. I’f months later I still haven’t responded …. obviously you need to take a hint! I’m not interested.
  3. No, you are NOT allowed to use the ‘I met you before her’ line. Why do so many people think that’s justified?
  4. Would you like it if someone did that to you?
It really upsets me, perhaps more than it should and I’m absolutely sick and tired of guys trying to make me matey/woman on the side/whatever other name they’ve coined. Is there a sign on my back saying ‘take me, I’m easy and have no standards?’ It’s bad enough that I find it hard to trust anyone and have a normal relationship but how much more trusting can I become if the men around me constantly show their true colours; that side that their ‘other’ has suspicions of but hasn’t had the displeasure of meeting. I still get upset even when it’s done in jest. Thou shalt not harbour such thoughts at all!
I know that we are all human and prone to error and I don’t only hold one gender accountable for this; it goes both ways. We ladies aren’t perfect either. I realized though that perhaps …. you haven’t really stopped to think about it and so you fail to see the ‘wrongness’ of such a request. This I confirmed after I ‘SPELLED IT OUT’ for someone and he suddenly went silent and seemingly remorseful.

I shant delve into much relationship advice lest I be chastized for not being able to hold down any of my own for long periods [mark you, I have my reasons] but I’m sure of this much:

  • Love the one you’re with and stay true to them. If you can’t do that then stop wasting their time and ruining them for someone else in the long run.
  • You can’t eat your cake and have it.
  • It’s fine to be a little flirty. I seeming condoned it sometime in 2007. But there are limits.
  • Trust is a fragile thing. Once broken it can never completely be restored. (You’ll just be fooling yourself)
  • It is possible to forgive [however long that may take you] but no one ever really forgets….. that ish will certainly come back to haunt you.
  • For every action there is a consequence….it might not catch up with you immediately but when it does – can you handle that?

So the next time you think of ‘hooking’ up with someone who is not your significant other … consider those points and if you still don’t see anything wrong with the equation then I believe you need some serious help!

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8 thoughts on “There is one line you should NEVER cross with me!

  1. Ahh correction on one of you points ” you can’t eat your cake and have it” it should be ‘ you can’t have your cake and eat it at the same time’

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